Someone had told him to focus on what he had to offer doms, and in the name of being good, he was doing his best to respect that, according to the script.It’s a sexual relationship, not a fucking chance to get the drains seen to.Do you want a low status role in a household and see service as a path to that? Do you find say, ironing all her napkins inherently satisfy because you like things just so?
If you want *any* sort of emotional connection, you need to think why you want to do service.
Is it because of the drudgery and the humiliation of the menial?
No question of him being a “do me”, he might do it if you needed/wanted it…
but like many, many subs it doesn’t inherently please him to be the service giver for domestic and handiwork.
Yes, it’s not a good idea to lead with a barrage of demands, and nobody likes a laundry list of fetishes in their inbox or a partner who has how you’ll act all mapped out.
But, if you’re at all a long time reader of this blog, you probably aren’t dealing with the level of selfishness or stupid, which leads you to message women with “wanna meet at my hotel while I’m in town for business and spank me and fuck my ass?! I’m talking about the fact that a lot of sub guys prepare themselves to please an internalized idea of what a femdom is.
Does it make her feel valuable and important to delegate? Are you filling her domestic fussiness fantasy with your exacting napkin folding?
A “fuck off after you mop the floors” dom is going to be a poor match for “and now I lovingly rub the feet of my mistress for head pets”.
Unless she’s a bit thick, she’ll notice if you advertise for one thing and expect another.
All offering service does is tell her you’re into service- so she’ll feel you lied and are out to get your kink stroked but treat her like a low rent pro.
If I wanted a house cleaner I’d look on bloody and give Collar Me a miss.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating