Writing good dating profiles

My finished product reflected my attitude at the time—a combination of "you have to play to win" and "hey, why not?

Write the wrong thing, and you’re doomed to fail, with your empty inbox serving as a constant reminder that your profile’s problematic.

On the other hand, when you write a compelling profile, you can watch messages from high-quality women pile up in your inbox, and fill your dating calendar like clockwork. How do we know our profiles really attract beautiful women?

You’ve got your sweatpants on, ordered enough Thai for two but only for one, and there’s a bottle of open booze somewhere in the room -- you must be single on Valentine’s Day. And I’m probably doing the exact same thing, with one big difference: instead of crying my way through…er, I mean dry-eyed watching a cheesy romcom, I’ve got my computer open, and I’m working overtime.

Such is the life of an online dating profile ghostwriter.

It expands your dating pool exponentially, opens you up to new experiences and people, and pretty much the entirety of the single (and some of the not-so-single) population is doing it. When I launched my business two and a half years ago, I had no idea what the response would be like, so I charged $20 for a complete makeover. This is your romantic life that we’re talking about.

The stigma is gone -- and don’t listen to anyone who disagrees. Today, my clients zip their credit cards to the tune of anywhere around 0 to 0 (though I spill 144 pages of easy, actionable advice in my new book, for those on a budget). To be completely corny and completely honest, these sites and apps can help you find the most important person in your life -- and they all require some sort of profile (yes, even a series of photos counts).If you’re boldly going forth with your profile on your own, allow me, the professional ghostwriter, to impart some tried-and-true techniques. (Hint: The one-liners discussed above often have a place in these profiles too -- and the photo advice stands as well.)On dates Go into each with an open mind, but know when it’s time to get out.On apps that don’t require much writing Don’t try to summarize yourself in something the length of a tweet or two. Use something that you’re actually interested in and turn it into a tweet length, one-liner, or quick story -- think upbeat or even funny. Don’t have expectations, put your phone away, and don’t hype dates to the point of nervousness.You can get away with more exaggerated humor and funny/cocky attitude on Tinder than you can on other apps and dating sites.So this is your chance to get creative and have a little fun. But when the market closes, the suit comes off and it’s time for some fun – whether we’re hitting Aspen’s slopes for a weekend trip, catching a live rock concert, or headed to Paris for some fresh-baked croissants and the best espresso on the planet.Yes, you heard me -- I craft other people’s online dating pages for Tinder, Ok Cupid, Our Time, you name it.

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